Anger Management Counselling and Therapy
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Viktor Frankl, psychiatrist and holocaust survivor
Anger is a normal human emotion. Feeling angry is a natural response to adverse external events like mistreatment, losses, or injustice. This emotion pushes us into action to rectify the situation. Anger in itself is not a problem. It only becomes an issue when it is not expressed constructively and can be better controlled & managed through anger management counselling.
Consequences of poor anger management
Anger may lead to aggressive behaviour like yelling, damaging property, causing fear to others or physical violence. If unaddressed, anger may adversely impact our relationships, work, family and social life, as well our physical and mental health.
Warning signs that one may have anger management issues include:
- Difficulty expressing oneself in a calm and constructive way
- Thinking that the anger is justified due to the behaviour of others
- Difficulty coming to a mutual agreement with others
- Highly reactive to situations in an out-of-control manner
- Choosing to ignore the person we are unhappy with
- Choosing to be in isolation
- Engaging in self-harming behaviours
- Displaying aggressive behaviours like shouting, swearing, threatening or being physically violent
If you experience such signs as above, then it would probably signal a crucial need to seek professional help.
Working through the emotions towards self-discovery
At In Focus, we believe that anger has much to tell us about oneself and that it is possible to work with a professional counsellor towards a deeper understanding of the messages behind the anger emotions and to discover more about oneself and what matters to you.
Rather than seeking to suppress the feelings, the goal of anger management therapy is to help one learn to regulate the emotions and to express our feelings and our needs in a healthy way without losing control. As a result, growth towards building stronger relationships and a healthier, more satisfying life becomes a reality.
What can I expect in anger management counselling?
Anger issues are often related to other underlying factors. This may include depression, anxiety, past emotional distress, or unfair treatment. Beyond learning how to express feelings constructively, our counsellor can work with you to make sense of the emotions and uncover the underlying issues beneath the anger. This is in line with our belief at In Focus in nurturing the whole person, which is more than anger management therapy that focuses on outward behaviour changes.
Where there are past experiences that have a bearing on your present struggles, these can also be worked through in the therapy process towards healing and empowerment.
What should I do if I feel stressed around someone who has difficulties managing his anger, but this person does not agree there is an issue and not open to counselling.
It can be stressful experiencing anger that is out of control or unpredictable, and particularly worrying if there are safety concerns. It may further be disappointing when the individual involved does not agree with you there is an issue and declines the idea of counselling help.
Counselling and therapy has to be voluntary. If you experience distress being around the individual, often feel uneasy even when things appear calm or feel unsure or confused about your own reactions to the anger, we would recommend that you begin first with individual counselling to get the support you need. Apart from emotional support, individual counselling also provides you a space to understand your own internal experiences and your own responses to the situations and to learn to manage differently.
If you feel you may be in danger of physical, verbal or emotional abuse and your safety or the safety of your loved ones are at risk, talking to a counsellor helps you process your experiences, gain perspective of the situation and work out plans for safety.
Contact us today to find out more on how we can support you or your loved ones through anger management counselling.
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