Anger Management Counselling and Therapy

anger management counselling

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Viktor Frankl, psychiatrist and holocaust survivor

Anger is a normal human emotion. Feeling angry is a natural response to adverse external events like mistreatment, losses, or injustice. This emotion pushes us into action to rectify the situation. Anger in itself is not a problem. It only becomes an issue when it is not expressed constructively and can be better controlled & managed through anger management counselling.

Consequences of poor anger management

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Anger may lead to aggressive behaviour like yelling, damaging property, causing fear to others or physical violence. If unaddressed, anger may adversely impact our relationships, work, family and social life, as well our physical and mental health.

Warning signs that one may have anger management issues include:

  • Difficulty expressing oneself in a calm and constructive way
  • Thinking that the anger is justified due to the behaviour of others
  • Difficulty coming to a mutual agreement with others
  • Highly reactive to situations in an out-of-control manner
  • Choosing to ignore the person we are unhappy with
  • Choosing to be in isolation
  • Engaging in self-harming behaviours
  • Displaying aggressive behaviours like shouting, swearing, threatening or being physically violent

If you experience such signs as above, then it would probably signal a crucial need to seek professional help.

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Working through the emotions towards self-discovery

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At In Focus, we believe that anger has much to tell us about oneself and that it is possible to work with a professional counsellor towards a deeper understanding of the messages behind the anger emotions and to discover more about oneself and what matters to you.

Rather than seeking to suppress the feelings, the goal of anger management therapy is to help one learn to regulate the emotions and to express our feelings and our needs in a healthy way without losing control. As a result, growth towards building stronger relationships and a healthier, more satisfying life becomes a reality.

Anger issues are often related to other underlying factors. This may include depression, anxiety, past emotional distress, or unfair treatment. Beyond learning how to express feelings constructively, our counsellor can work with you to make sense of the emotions and uncover the underlying issues beneath the anger. This is in line with our belief at In Focus in nurturing the whole person, which is more than anger management therapy that focuses on outward behaviour changes.

Where there are past experiences that have a bearing on your present struggles, these can also be worked through in the therapy process towards healing and empowerment.

It can be stressful experiencing anger that is out of control or unpredictable, and particularly worrying if there are safety concerns. It may further be disappointing when the individual involved does not agree with you there is an issue and declines the idea of counselling help.

Counselling and therapy has to be voluntary. If you experience distress being around the individual, often feel uneasy even when things appear calm or feel unsure or confused about your own reactions to the anger, we would recommend that you begin first with individual counselling to get the support you need. Apart from emotional support, individual counselling also provides you a space to understand your own internal experiences and your own responses to the situations and to learn to manage differently.

If you feel you may be in danger of physical, verbal or emotional abuse and your safety or the safety of your loved ones are at risk, talking to a counsellor helps you process your experiences, gain perspective of the situation and work out plans for safety.

Contact us today to find out more on how we can support you or your loved ones through anger management counselling.

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ABOUT US

At In Focus, we empathise with our clients as they go through myriad of life’s problems, stresses and challenges which are overwhelming at times. As these happened to us too. The only difference is, it is our profession to help others overcome these life hurdles so as to live life to the fullest.

OUR SERVICES

We have a range of services available for your consideration depending on your needs. You can get in touch with us for coaching services, corporate consultation, professional training, counselling and psychotherapy services. Please visit our services page to see what we offer.

CONTACT US

Phone: +65 8725 9303

Email: enquiry@in-focus.com.sg

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Chan Pei Lin

Master of Guidance and Counselling (MGC)

Counsellor Masters in Guidance and Counselling (MGC), James Cook University Bachelor of Arts (Psychology), University of Buffalo New York State

I have always had a keen interest in working with children and youth. I find it fulfilling and meaningful to be working, supporting and guiding them, and I now have more than eight years of experience in this area. After graduating from the University of Buffalo, New York State with a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, I started working with children and youth with Special Needs in early intervention. From my interactions with my clients over these years, I have come to see that being able to provide the emotional support that they and their families need is very important.

Being diagnosed with dyslexia and tactile defensives (Sensory Integrative Disorder), I remember the unconditional and judgement-free support I received from families and friends that got me through the various challenges. Therefore, I aim to offer the same unconditional support and judgement-free interaction to all my clients. Through my personal experience, I understand how crucial it is for individuals to develop a strong emotional foundation and a support network, especially those in similar circumstance. Therefore, I strongly believe in journeying and supporting individuals through stressful times, and in working with their loved ones through the strengthening of the bonds within the family unit.

I am trained in the major counselling and therapeutic approaches and also in Choice Theory Reality Therapy and Behavioural Therapy. My work is informed by Person Centred Therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Beyond children and youth, I have counselled clients in other settings and age groups including young adults and families. I am particularly interested in supporting people in building resilience and skills to cope with stress, anxiety adjustments and overall socio-emotional needs. Given my own personal and work experience, I firmly believe that everyone deserves a chance in a fulfilling life. To better support my clients, I am currently pursuing my certification for Choice Theory and Reality Therapy after obtaining my Masters in Guidance and Counselling at James Cook University.

Evelyn Rochelle Koh

Senior Principal Counsellor, Counselling Psychotherapist, Clinical Supervisor

Master of Social Science (Counselling), CTRTC, EFT, EFCT
Clinical Supervisor & Instructor (Senior Faculty of William Glasser International & William Glasser Institute, Singapore)

Certified Human Behaviour Analyst (DISC)
Certified PREPARE-ENRICH

I developed a passion in counselling when I started out as a school volunteer counsellor working with youth. I saw the transformative power of the counselling relationship on the youths in school and even later in life beyond school. This was a life changing experience for me and I was spurred to setup my own private counselling and psychotherapy practice in 2004. That was a time when there were few counselling and consultation services in Singapore. Since then, I have been working with youths, couples, parents, working adults on their emotional issues and mental health and well-being through counselling and psychotherapy for over 20 years.

Beyond helping my clients within the counselling room, I believe in tapping on the multiplier effect to bring healing and strength to individuals, and relationships between couples and within families. I thus expanded my work and I now devote a large portion of my time towards raising the skills and competencies of the helping profession through lecturing, training, clinical supervision and consultancy services.

My area of passion and specialisation is Choice Theory, Reality Therapy, Lead Management (CTRTLM) because it is highly empowering. I thus find great joy in training counsellors, therapist, social workers, coaches, leaders and managers in this area.  I am also trained in Emotion Focused Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and Gottman Couples Therapy and my work is also informed by therapeutic models such as Positive Psychology, Humanistic Therapy, Experiential Therapy and Systemic Family Therapy.

I am grateful to have the opportunity to work with organisations across different sectors, ranging from Youth Centers, Family Service Centers and Specialist Centers to the Health Promotion Board (HPB) and Ministry of Education (MOE). The latter two involved projects where I was able to share my passion for helping youth in Singapore. With the HPB, I helped develop the Peer Support Program for youth and conducted training for youth leaders from tertiary institutions and for those involved in the online peer support network “Youthpals”. With the MOE, I conducted cluster training for school counsellors and teachers on counselling and therapy skills to better help our students.

It is also my firm conviction that all situations of loss and pain can be opportunities for deep healing, growth and connection. I have thus been committed to providing regular training on the topic of “Grief and Loss” to social service practitioners through the Social Service Institute (SSI).

Curriculum Vitae

  • Registered Singapore Counselor with Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC)
  • Registered Clinical Supervisor with Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC)
  • Registered Social Service Practitioner with Singapore Association of Social Workers (SASW)
  • Professional member of the American Counselling Association (ACA)
  • Senior Faculty member as Approved Instructor and Supervisor of William Glasser International and William Glasser Institute, Singapore. At William Glasser Institute, Singapore, Evelyn is serving in the Executive Committee to advocate Dr. William Glasser’s teaching in Choice Theory Psychology, Reality Therapy and Lead Management.
  • External Lecturer/ Clinical Supervisor, Swinburne University of Technology
  • Clinical Supervisor, James Cook University Singapore, Monash University
  • Associate Adult Educator, Social Service Institute
  • Trained in Gottman Couples Therapy, The Gottman Institute
  • Trained in Emotion-Focused Therapy, York University, EFT Clinic
  • Trained in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Canada